Notes:
1. Swiss cheese defense for the pandemic: multiple layers of defense are very effective (NYT)
2. Honeypot: catching hackers by luring them in, deceptive technology (WSJ)
3. Reignite the spark in your relationship during the pandemic (WSJ)
4. Help your teenagers focus (WSJ)
5. Ferrari lover, Chanterria McGilbra, philanthropist/founder of Prancing Ponies Foundation (leadership for young women) (WSJ)
6. Book: Friends and Enemies - Barbara Amiel (WSJ)
7. Chuck Yeager, obit, broke the sound barrier (B. GLOBE)
8. Recipes: Taiwanese beef noodle soup, latkes, spice-rubbed braised brisket, & caramelized sheet-pan French toast (NYT)
9. Barack Obama: how he became an effective storyteller and writer (NYT)
Ubuntu: I Am Because We Are - The Secret to Teamwork
Ubuntu is a South African philosophy which means humanity. It is translated as I am because we are or humanity towards others. In other words, a person is a person through other people. Ubuntu became the unifying motto of the 2008 NBA Championship team, the Boston Celtics.
Doc Rivers was the coach and he often reminded his team, ‘When you play free, you can’t be beat.’ His philosophy was true teamwork - each individual plays for the other members of the team.
Before the 2008 season, Rivers brought his top three players - Paul Pierce, Kevin Garnett, and Ray Allen - on a surprise field trip. He arranged for a private Duck Tour (amphibious vehicle) through the championship celebration parade route that he envisioned his team participating in! Now, THAT’S having clear, positive vision for the organization.
Archbishop Desmond Tutu said the following about ubuntu: “A person with Ubuntu is open and available to others, affirming of others, does not feel threatened that others are able and good, based from a proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed.“
Related Links:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ubuntu_philosophy
Become More Purposeful Using Three Japanese Principles
Living a life of purpose and fulfillment is something most of us desire, yet few attain. When you discover your mission, you’re energized and empowered at the deepest level. When you know in your bones that you’re making a difference, you’re aligned with your values.
Tips for Becoming More Purposeful
1. Pursue Pride
For one thousand years, shop owners in Japan have sold mochi (rice flour cakes). Each generation is like the next runner in a relay race. Moshi shops have persevered through wars, plagues, natural disasters, and the rise and fall of empires! They strive to create a product that inspires pride. Their focus is on a higher purpose other than profit. A common Japanese tenet is to do one thing very well. Mochi shop owners serve their customers, employees, community, and inspire pride through the outstanding quality of their product.
2. Live Your Core Values
The word for core values in Japanese is kakun. Actually, kakun translates to family motto, family precepts, and the rule of the home. To begin your journey, choose three words that best encapsulate your vision and purpose. Which words express what you’re about in the deepest way? My company, All the Hats We Wear, has joyful, productive, and fulfilled as its core values. What are your core values?
3. Welcome Icky Guys in Your Life!
No, no, no. Not icky guys - you want ikigai in your life. It’s pronounced icky guy and in Japanese it means reason for being. Iki means life, gai means value/worth. You can’t exist in a vacuum, everything is connected. In ikigai, you reach a life of true balance of: purpose, passion, satisfaction, fulfillment, calling, true self, good for society, and your values. You embody ikigai when you balance those elements. In ikigai, you’re not validated by outside recognition, you can only discover and affirm your own ikigai. Wow - how important is THAT for us all?
Learning about ikigai reminded me of the book Blue Ocean Strategy - where your goal is to bypass all competition by being so unique that you cease to compete in typical markets. You must provide a one-of-a-kind experience for others - it’s NOT enough to find a gap and fill it. I recommend the documentary, Jiro Dreams of Sushi, to learn more about service and purpose. You’ll never think of sushi the same! Use these three principles to uncover your purpose, core values, and mission.
What’s something you do everyday that generates pride? What COULD you do? Share it in the comments!
Related links:
https://www.japan.travel/en/au/travellers-blog/ikigai-find-your-passion-and-purpose-the-japanese-way/
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/02/business/japan-old-companies.html
The 14 Leadership Traits of the U.S. Marines in the Mnemonic: JJ DID TIE BUCKLE
Recruits for the U.S. Marines must memorize the following mnemonic that defines the corps’s 14 essential leadership traits: JJ DID TIE BUCKLE.
Leadership Traits of the U.S. Marines:
Justice
Judgment
Dependability
Initiative
Decisiveness
Tact
Integrity
Endurance
Bearing
Unselfishness
Courage
Knowledge
Loyalty
Enthusiasm
How many of these 14 leadership traits do you have?
Ep 52 - Overcoming Obstacles and Becoming Stronger with Nicole Brown, Professional Speaker and Life Coach
Nicole Brown shares her inspirational story of overcoming many difficult obstacles. She is an Air Force veteran, life coach, speaker, Mom, kickboxer, and occasional stand-up comic! You'll get a lot of helpful tips on goalsetting and changing your mindset so you can achieve more!
5 Simple Self-Care Habits That Can Create a Happier You: Guest Post by Brad Krause
If you search #selfcare on social media, you’re going to see lots of posts about getting massages and spending time at the beach. However, self-care should be more basic than all of that. Now, don’t get us wrong, massages and beaches can definitely help you relax, but if you want long-term boosts for your mental health, you need to focus on your daily routine. Because with a few simple tweaks to your habits, including the tips mentioned below, you can feel more calm and content every single day, and then you can live your best life yet.
Eating More Mood-Preserving Foods
When you’re feeling down, you may be tempted to reach for comfort foods like ice cream, cookies, and candy. Unfortunately, these sugary and processed foods will not have any positive impacts on your overall health and may even make your mood worse. So if you really want to lift your spirits, choosing mood-boosting foods will have more positive and long-term effects on your mental health. Foods like beans, beets, carrots, bananas, and even avocados can actually help fight off those feelings of depression, so look for ways to add more of them to your diet.
Setting More Healthy Boundaries
If you find yourself feeling resentful of friends and family members, they may not be wholly to blame. All too often, these feelings of resentment are a product of you not setting boundaries to ensure that your needs are met in relationships. Although you may think that establishing boundaries with the people you love the most is selfish, it’s actually necessary to avoid negative feelings in these relationships. Setting boundaries is one of the healthiest self-care moves you can make for your mental health and for your relationships.
Making More Smart Money Moves
According to recent data, more than one-third of couples from the UK rank financial concerns as the top source of stress in their households -- and the reason for divorce. Whether you are experiencing anxiety over income, debts, or a combination of both, there may be ways for you to take back control of your finances. If you are a homeowner, refinancing your home loan could be one of these options. Refinancing can give your finances a boost by freeing up a lump sum of cash or lowering your monthly payments. Either way, you can put the extra money towards paying off debts or padding your savings.
Getting More Quality Rest and Sleep
Another top source of stress for working adults is a lack of sleep. Actually, sleep and stress tend to have more of a cyclical relationship. So, the less sleep you get, the more stressed you may feel, but the more stressed you feel, the less sleep you may be able to get. While incorporating more self-care into your routines, including the suggestions above, can improve your sleep and reduce your stress levels, research shows that resiliency may be even more helpful. So if you want better rest and sleep, and enhanced mental health, focus on improving your resiliency.
Taking More Time for Exercise
Some people only think of exercise as a chore. In reality, exercise can be self-care. Not only will it make you healthier, but exercise can help you feel better about yourself. If you tend to view exercise as a boring routine, there are ways to inject some fun into this activity. Pair up with a friend, join an exercise group, or invest a little money in a smartwatch that keeps track of your vitals; that way, you can see the impact exercise is having on your body. The more enjoyable you make your routine, the more apt you’ll be to stick with it.
There’s nothing wrong with pampering yourself with a few face masks and rubdowns, but self-care doesn’t have to be luxurious to improve your mental health. In fact, by focusing on simple practices, like eating healthy, saying “no,” or even dressing better, you are bound to see more long-term positive changes in your emotional well-being. Try adding these essential but basic self-care habits to your regular routine to find true contentment in life.
About Brad Krause
After spending most of his time in a corporate setting and neglecting his own self-care far too long, Brad embraced his calling and decided to become a full-time life coach. He now spends the rest of his life helping people get a better foothold on their wellness above all else. Visit his web site selfcaring.info and email him at brad@selfcaring.info.
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Daily Inspiration for 11-1-20
Notes:
* Getting all you can from LinkedIn
* Book: The Cancer Journals - Audre Lourde
* Book: Frankissstein: A love story - Jeannette Winterson
* Steve Martin’s favorite books
* Mission of the Older Women’s Co-Housing Project
* The Purge films
* Visionary interior design but a typical exterior
* Sean Connery, obit
* Teaching ourselves to become better ancestors
* Recipes: Somen noodle soup, Simple roast chicken, Map Ragu’ (pork and rice)
* Experiments for a better democracy: Strangers in a room hammering out climate solutions
* Lessons about democracy that Trump taught us
* Book: Dolly Parton, Songteller: My life in lyrics
* Michelle Wax’ project “American Happiness”
* Debut novel: White Ivy by Susie Yang
* Bibliophile: Maira Kalman, illustrator and author (Agatha Christie!)
* Listening to Brahms piano concerto/2016 Election Day
* Frederick Wiseman interview
* Parents’ stress affects quality time with family
* Healthy aging
Daily Inspiration for 10-31-20
Notes:
* 16-year old bridge playing phenom
* Picture of JFK and Jackie at a gala
* “I Survived” kids’ book series author
* Horror movie recommendations through the decades
* Americans worked more because they haven’t had a commute
* Dan Ariely: Research shows it helps to allow for a little slack in your goalsetting - ex/ give yourself one day off per week for a goal your working on
* Book: pictures of Navy Seals Hell Week
* Book: Do you feel like I do? By Peter Frampton
* Famous novelists’ recommendations for great mystery stories
* Sherlock Homes books and descriptions of fashion, technology etc. of that time
* Honoring life on the Day of the Dead in Mexico
* Ancient coral found in the Great Barrier Reef
* Cheesy horror movie hosts
* John Cleese: 20 odd questions - creativity tips!
(Boston Globe, New York Times, Wall Street Journal)
Daily Inspiration 10-30-20
Notes:
Ellen R. Gordon, CEO, Tootsie Roll
Horror movie recommendations
Playlist for Election Day
Friluftsliv: “open-air living” - Norwegian term
Social desirability bias’ effect on elections
The Donut King, documentary
Ray Croc’s ranch
Tech companies
Dr. Joyce Wallace, obit, cared for folks with H.I.V.
Diane di Prima, obit, Beat poet
Holidays will be different this year
City Hall, documentary - Frederick Wiseman
Masculinity: Trump vs. Biden
Daily Inspiration 10-29-20
Notes:
HBO TV series, Industry
Can you tell if someone’s a Trump/Biden supporter by seeing what they have in their refrigerator?
Denise Simon, acting coach’s advice: “You are enough”
Ashley Graham, supermodel
Getting speaking accents just right
Brain implants
Book: Keep Moving: Notes on loss, creativity, and change
History of candy companies in Boston