Raised to Be Weird But Became An Effective Leader

Carlie Irsay-Gordon, the owner of the Indianapolis Colts is a unique leader. Her father was the owner of the Colts before her and she took over when he died. She was always an original thinker and even as a child, she marched to the beat of her own drum. Her father encouraged all the kids to “go be weird - it’s cool to be weird.” I love that! How empowering. She originally went to school to become a clinical psychologist and in that time she said she learned how to be neutral. As a board-certified music therapist, I appreciate the slightly odd concept of learning to be neutral. As a counselor and therapist, you must serve the patient completely and in a way that leaves out your personal opinions and that takes a lot of self-restraint. 

I found it intriguing that she focuses more on HOW a decision is made than the results of that decision. And lastly, she looks at the organization as an organism with separate parts requiring specific care and curating. Carlie is known to stand on the sidelines with the team with a headset to hear the play calling and dialogue between the coaching staff. Only she never speaks - only listens and takes notes to learn. Her leadership style focuses on long-term success and sustainability.  
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In the News 6-16-25

This is a collection of articles I found interesting today. They’re related peripherally to the All the Hats We Wear approach to designing a life purpose - or they spark creativity for me.

1- Obit for James Lowe - member of the Electric Prunes! Love the name and their music is raw and alive - creative. Cool concept to play a religious mass as a 60s album.

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/12/arts/music/james-lowe-dead.html?searchResultPosition=1

Mass in F Minor: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2QnZn0I602I&list=PLiN-7mukU_RHdI-aZ9RnXgc1u-EDBAjbQ

I Had too much to dream last night:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjaHU8iuhmI


2- Suddenly interested in Brian Wilson’s struggles and life story - and his genius at songwriting. Love the creative process of genius artists. 

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/13/arts/love-and-mercy-brian-wilson/?p1=BGSearch_Overlay_LatestStories


3- Importance of Pet Sounds album by The Beach Boys.

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/11/arts/music/brian-wilson-pet-sounds.html?searchResultPosition=1


4- Protest songs! 

​​https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/07/opinion/trump-protest-songs/?p1=BGSearch_Advanced_Results

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/13/opinion/letters-to-the-editor-protest-songs/?p1=BGSearch_Advanced_Results


5- Book rec: Middle-aged woman’s divorce memoir

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/10/arts/mobius-book-catherine-lacey-divorce-memoir/?p1=BGSearch_Overlay_Results


6. Happiness gap related to political beliefs

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/11/opinion/quitting-progressive-liberal-activism-sabrina-joy-stevens/?p1=BGSearch_Overlay_Results


7. RIght-wing podcaster

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/06/technology/x-right-wing-influencer.html?searchResultPosition=1


8- Tech

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/13/technology/chatgpt-ai-chatbots-conspiracies.html?searchResultPosition=1


9- Moral virtue and philosophy

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/02/books/alasdair-macintyre-dead.html?searchResultPosition=1

In the News 6-8-25

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/31/style/molly-jong-fast-memoir-erica-jong.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/30/style/sydney-sweeney-bathwater-soap.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/04/arts/music/annea-lockwood-composer.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/04/movies/sally-hawkins-interview-bring-her-back.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/02/movies/pride-stream-queer-horror-movies.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/04/books/edmund-white-dead.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/03/opinion/elon-musk-cecil-rhodes.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/02/business/unitedmasters-steve-stoute.html?searchResultPosition=1

TV:

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/01/opinion/dying-well-planning-life.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/05/books/review/susan-choi-flashlight.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/04/26/books/review/new-horror-books.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/05/books/review/little-bosses-everywhere-bridget-read.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/31/movies/kyra-sedgwick-bad-shabbos.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/04/movies/john-wick-history.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/31/magazine/miley-cyrus-interview.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/02/magazine/butterworths-restaurant-washington-trump-maga.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/03/magazine/roots-music-streaming-algorithms.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/06/books/paul-durcan-dead.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/05/movies/mara-corday-dead.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/08/nyregion/100-year-old-psychologist.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/07/technology/chatgpt-openai-colleges.html

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/06/arts/hallelujah-the-hills-ryan-walsh-deck/

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/06/arts/perfume-genius-mike-hadreas/

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/05/arts/jaws-riffs-imitations/

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/03/arts/william-f-buckley-sam-tanenhaus-biography/

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/08/opinion/coping-with-chaos-trump/

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/04/opinion/ai-power-persuasion/

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/06/opinion/therapy-speak-is-everywhere-not-healthy/

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/08/opinion/ukraine-russia-drone-attack/?p1=BGSearch_Overlay_Results

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/02/opinion/rolling-stones-satisfaction-summer-1965/

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/06/03/magazine/father-day-grill-recipes/?p1=BGSearch_Overlay_Results

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/02/books/alice-notley-dead.html?searchResultPosition=1

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/03/arts/music/per-norgard-dead.html?searchResultPosition=1

In the News 6-7-25

Google Doc Productivity

I just started using Google docs and it’s been super helpful connecting my personal and work information flow. I call my doc “Hetfield” - named after my favorite rocker, James Hetfield, from Metallica. It just gives me a spark of inspiration when I see Papa Het’s name. This doc streamlines all of the metrics I need.

I’ve used day planners, 3-ring binders for decades. Last year, I switched to the Reminder App on my phone. But the Google doc contains all the info I need in one place. Also, you can revise your lists in real time, whereas with a planner, you have old lists that you hang onto because they have a few items to still deal with. 

Here are some of the categories in my Google doc: Blog, Books, Cocktails, Films/TV, Finance, Goals, Hats Book 2.0, Medical, Mission Statements, Newsletter, Obstacles, Passions/Hobbies/Interests, Questions, Projects, Role List, Songbook, Supervision, To-Do Personal, to-Do Work, Tunes to Learn, Vision Statement, Web Sites, Word Salad Ideas, Work Planning for Week

If you start each section with a Header, you can make a table of contents with links!

I use a Google Sheet (spread sheet) called “News Links” and use it to organize the articles I find interesting in the Boston Globe, New York Times, and Wall Street Journal. It’s the best of both worlds - I can read a physical newspaper - which is my preference - and I have to link whenever I need to refer to it as well.

What’s your can’t-live-without-it hack for productivity?



Kamikaze Energy

One of the many hats I wear is Music Therapist at a psychiatric hospital. Each week, I feature a musical artist for lyric discussion. We explore the artist’s personal story and music to glean lessons that support their recovery.

Lately, I’ve been obsessed with the song “Kamikaze” by Eminem. It has a boundless, relentless energy that is infectious. Is it possible to transform negative energy into positive energy? I think so.

This song is Eminem’s reaction to the critics that panned his last album. He’s making a ruthless comeback in this song. It’s explosive! All that hype energy - I love it. He’s back with a vengeance and taking everyone with him. There’s a lot of variety in how he expresses the excitement musically: build-up verses, big beat drops, a capella rapping, rapping that cleverly eludes to doubling its rhythm, and verses with slight melodic turns at the end of phrases. Love him or hate him - Eminem is an extraordinary wordsmith. I think emotions are often closely related. Pissed off energy can easily transmute into excitement or empowerment. Aggression can flip to joy.

What’s one way you’ve transformed negative energy?

5 Tips for Unleashing Your Creativity by Using Your Capture Notebook

1. Every night before bed, grab your capture notebook, find a quiet place, put on some music to get you in a calm yet creative mood, get a red pen, close your eyes, replay the key events  of your day, then jot down talking points that you can dictate about in your audio journal. Naturally, jot down ideas throughout the day, but right before bed is the perfect time to find the colorful moments that slipped through the cracks. 

2. Write your word of the day for the entire month in the back of your capture notebook. Each day, write the word of the day in red in your capture notebook. When you do your dictation, use the word of the day in a sentence at some point in your entry and relate it to an event of the day.  

3. Whenever you ask quality questions in your notebook, write them in red so you can talk about them in your audio journal. Quality questions are immensely powerful. They get to the heart of things quickly. I receive supervision for my job as music therapist. Every two months my past supervisor - a very experienced and talented music therapist himself - helps me work through how to up my game. The first time we spoke, I was asking him a million questions and there was stress at work and my mentor interrupted me with a key question that stopped everything: Do you like the job? It was clear we weren’t moving on until I answered that crucial question. That’s what a great mentor can do: hold space for you in transformational moments.  

4. Any ideas related to new roles, sub-roles, mini-mission statement revisions, new goals, or project work should be written in red in your capture notebook and discussed in your audio journal.

5. Give a title to the day - something creative. It could be an unusual phrase someone used during the day or a zany image. 

Preventing Brain Rot

Brain rot is the word of 2024, according to Oxford University Press. They define it as “the supposed deterioration of a person’s mental or intellectual state, especially viewed as the result of overconsumption of material (now particularly online content) considered to be trivial or unchallenging.”

Sounds about right! It’s funny with an explosion in technology that we’ve collectively become dumber. I think it’s because we live at the surface level so much. We’re spoon fed our entertainment and news. 

I got my car maintained and while sitting in the waiting room, I looked around at the other customers waiting. Eight out of eight of my compatriots were staring at their phones. I heard mostly tv shows or social media clips in the waiting room. This is going to sound snooty but I had a book bag full of things to do. I had a book, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, index cards for jotting summaries for a word salad project I’m working on, and ear buds with a binder with my drum parts for the musical I’m playing (I wanted to review the score with the music). I could’ve kept busy for 12 hours!

I don’t mention this to say I’m better than anyone. I’m saying it’s easy to underestimate the value of the cracks in the day and any opportunity to delve deeper than the usual surface level of thinking. 

Here are a few simple activities that involve deep thinking:

Brainstorm, Connect, Consider, Decide, Intuition, Center, Meditate, Imagine, Compose, Create, Plan, Prioritize, Strategize, Envision, Compare, Evaluate, Summarize, Refine, Question, Analyze, Investigate, and Explore.

Creating a Bad-Ass Vision Statement for Your Life like Coach Belichick

Bill Belichick accepted the coaching position for the UNC Tar Heels College football team! I can’t wait to watch them build the program. I’m fascinated when successful people make a program flourish. His vision for UNC is to create a fast track for college players to get into the NFL - a unique vision for a college team. I love the step up. He’s not thinking about beating other college teams per se - he’s planning to create super-performers. Thinking big! I’m envisioning countless tiny improvements in all facets for the team.

Belichick’s vision reminds me of the book Blue Ocean Strategy. I was obsessed with that book for a long time. I listened to the audio book ten times because it had amazing concepts yet it was so poorly written that I kept dozing off. I’ve always thought the book should be translated for typical humans to read. It’s super corporate and dry. The idea of the book is to grow your business by NOT competing with your competition. While everyone else turns the ocean red with blood from battling one another, you seek blue waters where there is no competition - due to your unique strategy. Let’s talk more about creating a vision for you life.

Vision Statement Tips

Excerpt from my workbook “All the Hats We Wear - Leadership Course:

Vision Statements:

A vision statement helps us imagine an inspiring future. Your vision statement should be 10-12 short statements. It should make your heart race! Some lines in your vision statement should describe measurables like “I earn x dollars per month.” Statements should be in the present tense. In addition, have “I’m a” statements related to the exciting roles that you play - as in “I’m a Visionary.”

Create a habit of writing your vision statement in a special notebook in the morning and before bed. Doing this will make sure you're regularly hovering over the most important metrics and identities for your life. Revisit your goals, mini-mission statements, and vision statement every day. You need to constantly hover over and reconnect with what’s most important. Researchers have found that only 8% of people who make New Year’s resolutions achieve them.

Example of a Vision Statement

I practice Transcendental Meditation every day

I weigh X pounds

I'm the best Dad I can be

I'm a Visionary and World-Class Problem Solver

I'm the Willy Wonka of Creativity

My company generates X dollars per year

I lead X people in my online community

I earn x per month and donate X% to those in need

I have a net worth of X

I enjoy abundance in every role

I'm joyful, productive, and fulfilled

I believe more every day

Share your vision in the comments!!

Have a Clear Vision Through the Storm

The Buffalo Bills are on my mind ever since quarterback, Josh Allen, scored 51 points in Fantasy football! He’s on my team! Woohoo. He’s a scrappy, hard-nosed player and fun to watch. 

The truth is, I’ve been thinking about the Bills since the December 1st game which was whiteout conditions with a snowstorm. I’ve seen plenty of snowy football games but this one looked different. I think it’s the super high quality of the tv cameras that made it so all you could see was snow flakes. Usually, he watch the action on the field and the snow is there but becomes secondary in focus to the athletes. These cameras made the snow flakes and the noise the entire focus. 

In life that happens all the time. The noise and busyness is all we can see and feel as the essentials often drift into the background. The problem is the essentials make up the main action! 

Here are strategies to help you have clear vision through the storm in everyday life:

Purposefully adjust your lens - spiral in and out as needed. When you find yourself blocked creatively, you’re probably too detail focused when you should broaden your perspective - and vice versa. 

Jot down bullet points to blab about in your daily audio journal. Each day you should have at least five interesting thoughts or observations from the day’s events worthy of exploring further and capturing. Refer to Module 5: Unleash Your Creativity of my free pdf workbook for the steps for starting a daily audio journal. It’s one of the best habits you can ever start!

Use a voice recording app on your phone to record yourself reading your goals and mini-mission statements so you constantly revisit and hover over the most important metrics of your life.

Begin meditating! I suggest getting trained by a certified Transcendental Meditation teacher and begin twice daily practice (20 minutes before breakfast and 20 minutes before dinner). TM is a highly effective technique for giving the mind and body the rest it needs and craves. After a session if TM, you’re mind won’t have any of the noise we’re so used to having - the snowstorm of demands that robs us of our attention.   

Lastly, if you really want to quiet the noise, uncover your purpose and you’ll begin to see the world through the filter of your purpose. Sound impossible? I’ll walk you through a transformational leadership course. Click here: All the Hats Leadership Course Video. And thank me later!