Have you ever abandoned something you enjoyed because you couldn't be the best at it?

I've fallen into that trap many times and didn't realize it until creating a podcast episode about my life's story. I started with my current purpose of being a productivity and life purpose expert and went backwards in time to figure out how I discovered that purpose.

In the fourth grade, I began playing drums and it quickly became my identity. I was the top drummer everywhere I went - well, until I wasn't. In college, I found myself surrounded by better drummers. Gradually, drumming became less of a part of my identity. I figured - what's the point of working at it if I can't be the best?

With the internet, it's easy to dive into subjects that interest us. It's also easy to see how there's always someone more informed than you. Maybe you have a different reaction and become more invested and stimulated because of the competition.

For example, I love the movie Jaws and joined a Jaws Facebook group. Initially, it was a lot of fun but after a few weeks, I couldn't keep up! Would this be the end of my love for Jaws? Hell, no! I wouldn't let that happen. I started wondering about this recurring pattern of mine. I decided to focus more on enjoying my hobbies whole-heartedly - without the need to compare with others.

Also, discovering what I'm most passionate about - ie/ productivity coaching - taught me that even though there are many other productivity experts, none of them see the world through my eyes. I have a completely original take and embrace it. This was an eye-opener! I had to believe in the value of my unique take on everything I do. I found my sweet spot between being content and striving to improve.

What are the vital areas in your life where you need to find your sweet spot? Make a list of the key areas in your life and brainstorm how your approach is unique.