Today's episode is a response to a question I saw on Facebook: How can I use SMART goals to become a better dad, husband, and friend - a beautiful question! We'll explore productivity strategies including goalsetting, project management, creativity, mission statements, and managing all the haste we wear.
Episode outline:
0:48 SMART goals
1:45 Four types of goals
3:16 Passions, hobbies, & interests
4:30 Four types of roles
5:50 Manage your roles
8:25 Transitioning between roles
8:56 Unleashing your creativity
9:55 Around the world tool
10:35 Mini-mission statements
12:39 Project management
14.52 Journaling
15:45 Fred VanFleet on playing basketball with a pure heart
16:30 My first podcast episode
17:18 I.N.T.F.H motto
17:50 Tom Brady and Father Time
18:21 Life Purpose Ted Talk
19:00 Mick Jagger on peak performance
Transcription: Well, you have arrived. This is the all the hats we wear a podcast. Here you'll hear a plethora of tips and strategies for living your purpose. We all wear many hats. In fact, we're proud of wearing a lot of different hats are proud of all the roles we play. As you can see, from people's social media profiles. My goal is to support you to become joyful, productive and fulfilled. I'm your host, Scott Snow life coach, productivity expert. Today we're going to focus on an article I did. That was in response to a Facebook group I was part of, and the person had a question about, they wanted to know how to create SMART goals, to help them become a better parent, spouse and friend. So as I started to formulate how I wanted to contribute to the thread, it became an entire blog post, which is on my website, if you want to check it out all the hats, we were just search SMART goal. So in terms of SMART goal, actually, I don't agree with smart goals, I don't like them. I don't think they're very interesting or fun. They're boring. an acronym for the SMART goal is specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely, boring. I don't find them inspiring. I think that we have four types of goals that we should be using. We need different types of goals. Because they're like different tools in the tool belt, you need different goals for different reasons. Here are my four types of goals, the habit goal, that's a rule for how you're going to live your life. It's not a habit yet. And once it is, you'll create a new one. But it's a habit goal, An example might be, I meditate for 20 minutes every day, or I exercise every day for a half hour. It's very clear and specific. next type of goal is a deadline goal. And that of course is an outcome with a deadline, a snapshot in time. An example by June 15, I weigh x pounds. Next is the visionary goal. And this is an aspirational goal that can't be measured. So this goes against the whole idea of a SMART goal. But it's crucial to get you inspired and think big. An example might be I'm the best dad I can be or I'm a world class problem solver. I enjoy abundance and all my roles. I'm a visionary. Those who can't really measure. And the fourth type of goal is called the sky's the limit goal. These are huge goals requiring plenty of imagination, the sky's the limit, think big. An example, my company's innovation helped a billion people get out of poverty. So I suggest that you write goals for all of your different roles, and use a mix of all four types. Next is you need to identify your passions, hobbies and interest. This is the first step in identifying your roles. You want to strive for at least 15 items in each category. And the reason you do this is that a lot of times your roles will be pre staged. With your brainstorming for your passions, hobbies and interest. You'll forecast your roles, given your interests, your loves and likes. So it's important to cultivate them, I often find that students and younger adults, they seem to have trouble cultivating interests. It's it's a very worthwhile activity to continue to chip away at those interests. You know, for me, it's backgammon. I've been really into backgammon for the last four or five years. And everything you know every book, I read every YouTube video or instructional thing, every time I play, you learn a bit more in it, and it adds to that bulk of your interest. So it really becomes fun, it's much better to go deep on something, then just do a million different things. How much can you get into you know yoga with gold goats. So there our next would be to identify those roles of yours. Now our role is a category and your life requiring quality time to be fulfilled. There are four types of these roles. The first is the mind body spirit role. An example might be spiritual person, visionary, body, genius, Christian Buddhist. next type is the giving and receiving roles. That's the end of the hour. So you might think investor, wealth builder, millionaire or billionaire giver. therapists volunteer for little league.
Next is the personal role. This is what you might think of is roles. A wife, sister friend, Mom, Chef, rock climber, adventurer, yoga instructor, roller derby queen. And then we have the professional roles. Like director of leadership training, supervisor, entrepreneur, sales, Pro, speaker, networker, blogger. Also, you should include future roles. You don't have to be doing it to assume the role. Like a millionaire, I have a millionaire role, but I'm not a millionaire. Think Big, why not? Now you can combine all of your roles in a quadrant, just make a quadrant and then list all of all of your roles. Now that we've identified our roles, we have to start to manage them. First, you can go through all your roles and assess them one by one, on a scale of one to 10. Get some perspective on where your life is? Where are the difficulties? And where are the things that are going well, you can brainstorm activities that combine roles. If you're a parent, husband or a friend or spouse, what can you do that will involve multiple roles simultaneously plan a camping trip with another family. We just had Super Bowl so that was a nice role connector for me, invited my mother over and we had a lot of food. My kids were involved they were they had fun. You know, have fun betting on the game and all that. And I had my chef role involved I made some coconut beef stew for the big game. And you know, you could even see parts of relationships with there was a nice video, a viral video after the game when the Buccaneers won. And one of their star players was with this fiance whatever and they were doing they were doing snow angels, you know, on their back on the field with all the confetti and everything. That was cool. I played some backgammon with my mother. And I even started to think about pirate songs because I do music therapy as well. I work with kids with disabilities using music, and I got on this pirate song theme. And well here's one of the songs I did. This is a sea shanty which is big on Tick Tock right now I don't know if you're on Tick Tock if you are following me there. I'm having a lot of fun there. My handle is all the hats we wear. Of course. There once was a shoe that went to sea and the name of the ship was the belly of tea the winds part her bow dip down old blow my bully boys blow. Soon May the women come to bring sugar and tea and rum. One day when the tongue is done, we'll take leave and go. That's the willemijn it's actually not a sea shanty. It's a ballad. But everybody calls it a sea shanty, and sea shanties are big.
Now, you can also consider the transition between your roles on a typical day. Think of a marine drill sergeant tough, ruthless, demanding. These are great attributes for a drill sergeant, it saves lives and helps, you know, teach Marines how to be Marines. But it's not going to go so well with relationships and parenting and those other roles. So you need to adjust your roles you need to transition between roles. Next, we have to unleash our creativity. These are all the head head parts of this blog post that I did in response to that question about sparkle. So unleashing a creativity. brainstorm quality questions related to your roles. Make sure you're asking empowering, open ended solution focused questions. You know, there's a difference between good questions and bad questions. A good question might be, what new recipes Can I prepare that will be healthy and make me lean and strong? Or for my dad role? What's something my child is struggling with now? And how can I support her? For my entrepreneur role? Who's my dream mentor? My visionary role? What would be my perfect day? These are questions you can ask about all of your roles. And I suggest making a habit every Friday. You just take 15 minutes and just write down brainstorm as many questions as you can relate it to your roles. Another thing you can do that's fun, which is something I called around the world. That's like that basketball kids game where you go around the key for basketball and you have to make a shot at each station all around the circle. You can do the same thing with all your rolls. round the world. Make a little progress for each roll five minutes for each roll and then have a timer. You'll be amazed at how many ideas you come up with. There's also bad questions. Why am I always broke? Why does this always happen to me? You know, some people are always the eternal. What's the word? worrywart or the victim, the victim mentality. Next one, clarify your mission and connect with your why's. Now, this involves a mission statement. But I have a different take on mission statements. I do what they call a, what I call a mini mission statement for each of my roles. you first start by brainstorming all the words you associate to that role. You know when you're at your best at that role, an example of a visionary role. Some of the words I came up with were creativity, beacon, innovation, Willy Wonka of design. Mozart, simplicity, elegance. JOHN Coltrane, Frank Zappa. Next step is to write a 40 to 60 word mini mission statement for each role. Here's the template. I am a blank, insert the role name, I blank, blank and blank so I can blank. This is my blank role. And that's the nickname role is the last sentence. So there's your template for a perfect mini mission statement. Let me give you an example of a finished mini mission statement. On my role, visionary. I'm a visionary. Creativity is my greatest gift. I think big every day and constantly absorb new insights and apply them. I'm a lookout tower and lightning rod. I'm a voracious reader an unstoppable force for good. My crystal clear goals keep me on track for achieving my juiciest goals. This role is my Willy Wonka engine role that drives everything good in my life. Next, you should make an audio recording of your mini mission statements, and your goals and listen to them every day. So you hover over them and connect with them all the time. So key, the worst thing you can do is make your role list and or goals on New Year's Eve and then never look at it again, that's worthless. You have to revisit the emotion of your need to achieve these things every day.
Next is to ace your large projects. We all have our handful with all different projects. And usually we underestimate the time required to do them. Another thing that prevents many of us from achieving projects and just we just keep them on the backburner forever is that we don't have a system for taking up where we left off. And it's so important. Everybody has a busy life, we've got a lot of moving parts. And the ability to be able to say I'm going to work on project number three, you know, writing an ecourse, or working on my book, and to say, Well, I'm at this stage. And this is the type of work I do at that stage. And now I can get right down to business. So here are the seven stages of your project management. This is how you achieve any creative project. Whether it be planning a wedding or writing a book. Stage One, identify the spark. This is your emotional connection to your project. So it's key. You can't start your project without having that clear, emotional connection your spark. Why are you doing this? What makes you How does it make you feel? That's the fuel for the whole project. Next step is stage two the gathering stage. You collect all your resources, and inspiration related to the project. Throw it all in a cardboard box and slap a label on. Three is brainstorm. ask lots of questions for a structure stage. What are the main components of this project, if it's a book, how many chapters next stage five is the action stage, roll up your sleeves and get the bulk of the project work done. Stage six is the refining stage, make it shine, and seven is to celebrate. Now you're done the project. So you can make a list of all the projects on your plate and a few that you'd like to begin and find creative ways to connect your roles while working on projects. An example make a treehouse. redo the patio in the back. Plan a Disney trip with the family. Next is to start a daily journal. This is a great creativity helper. And throughout the day, you want to jot down Some ideas that come up that you want to explore in your journal that night. I call these creative snippets. So example might be my four year old nephew was wrestling with Grandpa and said, Papa, you know, my favorite old man. A favorite song from high school came on the radio, Van Halen 5150 as I drove home, and I had the moonroof open, and it was great. So those are examples of what you can do. In response to that question, in the thread, I read about starting a SMART goal to make progress with some of your roles. Now let's go right to a couple of inspirational stories. Story number one is about a basketball star on the Toronto Raptors named Fred van fleet. He had like an outstanding game A while back, and he scored on an O 60 points or something. And afterwards, they asked him about it. And he says he was just playing with a pure heart. And I love that he says you can't go wrong when you're just playing like that. So your good intentions. And I applied that a bit to my own work, you know, like you start to go, Well, you know, there's this person that could be a great mentor, just rattle off a quick email to say something and don't even second guess it. You know, as long as you're from a pure heart, because then you start getting the doubt, like, Oh, I don't want to bug that person. I don't know what's gonna happen. Just do it. Number two. The other day I was in line at Taco Bell, getting something from my son, he loves soft tacos and popcorn chicken and plain mashed potatoes, of course. And I decided to watch listen to the first episode of my podcast, the most powerful time management skill you'll ever learn. And I was kind of saying, Oh, brother, this is gonna be bad. You know, I was listening to and I thought it was really good. I totally enjoyed it. In fact, I recommend you go back and listen to episode number one. I wouldn't change much about it at all. I thought it was really good. So it's nice that we can look back and be happy with things that we've done. That's another reason journaling is so great. Celebrate all of these things. We need moments that we can look back and feel proud. Story number three. This is my Yoda board for inspiration. And I usually put some different quotes. This one says I NTFH
It's not that frickin hard. That quote helps me. You can substitute whatever word you want. But just it's a quick reminder like, don't get bogged down. Keep going. It's not that hard. That helps. Started number four. Tom Brady and father time Sheesh. 43 years old and won a Super Bowl. Incredible, incredible. I'm inspired by his obsessive diet and training regimen. 365 days a year all the time. He lives and breathes his TV 12 system. And I respect that we can surely apply our standards and habits through the weekend. Right if he can do it all year long. Story number five. Adam leap Zig has a TED talk about life purpose, how to know your life purpose in five minutes. He's a movie producer. But he's got a great system. See what you think. I still I'm still not sure if I totally agree with if this is a viable way to do that to determine your life purpose, but it certainly gets the conversation going. He says you need to answer the five following questions. who you are, what you do, who you do it for? What those people want need, and how those people change as a result. Check out his TED Talk. How to Know your life purpose in five minutes. Story number six is from Mick Jagger. Are you a Rolling Stones fan? I am definitely. I think they're the greatest rock and roll band ever. I just saw them. two summers ago in Foxboro stadium awesome. Of course, I was wearing an apron because I volunteered through part of my local band with my wife to be servers in one of the concessions. So you get a free ticket there. You get. I mean, you're working all night, but a lot of times they let you out and you could watch corn from the side. watch the show and you're hearing it and it was definitely an experience. I learned I don't know how to pour beer right from the tap because it kept bubbling over. So anyway, Mick Jagger's point was that when he's on tour, every minute of his day determines his planned so that he can be at his best at Showtime, whether it be 10pm or whatever time that he hits the stage from When he has his coffee when he has a nap when he eats, when he travels, everything is just that he can be at his best for that. And that's cool. I do a similar thing at night. I try to have a coffee by 630 at the latest, because that helps me I like to work into the night, maybe you know, one in the morning 1230 get a lot done when it's quiet. And I usually do some tm in the afternoon, transmit some meditation, and I often watch bad movies or have them in the background while I'm working. Pink Floyd's DVD, pulse, something I go to a lot. Maybe if there's a Celtics game, I like to have stuff on in the background. And that's how I plan my night. Who, well, we covered this article of smart goals. You have to decide for yourself if a SMART goal does it for you. Or maybe you need my four types of goals. Here's an ending quote from the great Mahatma Gandhi. Happiness is when what you think what you say and what you do, are in harmony. Gandhi Well, thanks for joining me today. If you want more information on what I do, check out the website. All the hats we wear.com and if you want a free console for training or a individual coaching, let me know through the website and we'll set something up right away. Thanks for joining me. See you next time.
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